How many times have you fallen head-first in love with someone only to learn that they're not quite in the same place emotionally as you? It's a common story that often leads to heartbreak and misery.
Despite the fact that you feel as though you've found Prince Charming or Miss Right, your partner’s love meter may still be stuck on “just for fun” and when there is a blatant difference in love meter speeds, one partner may begin to feel insecurity while the other feels pressured. If not addressed timely and effectively both of these symptoms can eventually lead to a break up.
So what do you do?! A variety of things (with open communication always being at the forefront of the equation).
It is important to remember that everyone will not feel the same things at the same time. Expecting your partner to fall in love at precisely the same rate as you is unrealistic. (Don’t. Be. Unrealistic!)
Far too many promising relationships end because one person is overly eager to express feelings of love, devotion and wedding planning before the other is even capable of making sense out of their own feelings. This lack of synchronicity usually leads to arguments and feelings of rejection by the person who is feeling more intently at that time.
The truth is, you're not being rejected at all. You're simply dealing with a person who may have more issues to deal with before allowing feelings of love to come to the surface.
Before you give in to an emotional outburst and demand to know why your partner doesn't love you yet, give it some more time. Spend time doing fun things together that will allow your partner to appreciate your qualities and allow the feelings to develop freely and naturally.
Remember that the happiest relationships involve respect for each other’s feelings and needs.
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Despite the fact that you feel as though you've found Prince Charming or Miss Right, your partner’s love meter may still be stuck on “just for fun” and when there is a blatant difference in love meter speeds, one partner may begin to feel insecurity while the other feels pressured. If not addressed timely and effectively both of these symptoms can eventually lead to a break up.
So what do you do?! A variety of things (with open communication always being at the forefront of the equation).
It is important to remember that everyone will not feel the same things at the same time. Expecting your partner to fall in love at precisely the same rate as you is unrealistic. (Don’t. Be. Unrealistic!)
Far too many promising relationships end because one person is overly eager to express feelings of love, devotion and wedding planning before the other is even capable of making sense out of their own feelings. This lack of synchronicity usually leads to arguments and feelings of rejection by the person who is feeling more intently at that time.
The truth is, you're not being rejected at all. You're simply dealing with a person who may have more issues to deal with before allowing feelings of love to come to the surface.
Before you give in to an emotional outburst and demand to know why your partner doesn't love you yet, give it some more time. Spend time doing fun things together that will allow your partner to appreciate your qualities and allow the feelings to develop freely and naturally.
Remember that the happiest relationships involve respect for each other’s feelings and needs.
Learn More:
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