Relationship Issues: Are You Guys Even Compatible?

Usually when we start a new relationship, our companion can seem like the perfect match. They're funny, sweet, romantic, caring….blah blah blah. But after a few months, little differences start to show that make you realize your (famous celebrity) might be a (famous celebrity dead weight) after all.

In most cases, this is simply because everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning of the relationship. They're showing you all their good traits, pleasant attributes and you’re doing the same right back to them. However, once familiarity and comfort set in, so do real personalities.

But what do you do if you discover that the “real you” doesn’t mesh well with the “real them”? What to do if the two of you truly aren’t compatible?
Incompatibility doesn't always mean that you have different goals or hobbies or interests. It could simply mean that you two have different objectives in life.

 Some couples agree to be tolerant of the other's beliefs or goals. Other couples make the change to one or the other person's way of thinking.
 
The level of incompatibility between you and your partner is truly only something that you will know. 

Unfortunately there can be much deeper issues to overcome if your partner doesn't want any children and you want four, plus a dog. Your partner might be into sexual fantasies that involve rubber chickens and gummy bears – or any other array of props – and you just can't bring yourself to go there.

Your partner may also have issues with substance abuse, physical abuse or other deeper psychological issues that you don't want to be a part of. These deeper incompatibility issues can be reason enough to consider looking for a new partner.
 
Being incompatible on some issues doesn't mean the relationship needs to end. You may simply need to work on communicating your needs and preferences to your partner. However, when there are deeper issues involved, it may be time to question whether you're happy to compromise your own values for the sake of a relationship.

Being incompatible also doesn't mean your relationship has to end, but there will be some things that need to be addressed.

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